that cheating *basket*
I’ve been debating this issue for a while now (ever since Coconut Girl blogged about affairs on the seawall and under the coconut tree)
There’s this one girl I went to College with. WE aren’t best friends or even good friends. We just know each other and would usually make small talk when we meet at the isles in Foodland doing our Sunday shopping.
I know her husband though. Quite WELL!! And what a sleazy piece of *bleep* he is. The whole time they were together/dating/going out or whatever the heck you wanna call it, he’s been playing the poor girl. I know this because he tried his moves on me, BUT, major fail-didn't work. I was a very very good girl focused on schooland the HOT Tongan boys-YUM!
Anyways, they're married and have 2 little girlies. About a handful of people know he still does his usual; even some of her good friends know and I’m surprised they haven’t even told her. (or maybe they have but she’s being in denial?) He’s so good at being a sleazy bastard too.
BUT, the good community friend that I am, I want to tell her. I just don’t think she deserves to be in the dark about it. Especially when I saw the sleazy bastard in his realm doing his thang about a couple of weeks ago while me and my ‘undercover lover’ were out on a date.
WE were coming out of Cheesecake and we saw a familiar face walking Waikiki St towards us. Yup!!!! It was him. He was holding hands with a young blonde who looks like a red lobster in a skimpy top and an even skimpier skirt that could hardly cover her behind. We weren’t even surprised. AT ALL!!!! But when he caught sight of us, he full on pushed the girl into the APPLE store before he sat down on the cement posted next to the sidewalk.
‘Undercover Lover’ stopped to talk to the asswipe and I was too busy peeking around in the APPLE store if I could see the chick that was just shoved in there. Yup, there she was looking around and sneaking a peek at us. Does she know he’s a married man? And what the heck is this guy thinking? Is he really comfortable that people won’t say anything to his wife? That I WON’T say anything to his wife. Gosh the schmuck just doesn’t care I think. Maybe I should tell his wife when I see her next on the frozen foods isle at Foodland??
What say you expert women of the blogsphere? Should I? Should I?
There’s this one girl I went to College with. WE aren’t best friends or even good friends. We just know each other and would usually make small talk when we meet at the isles in Foodland doing our Sunday shopping.
I know her husband though. Quite WELL!! And what a sleazy piece of *bleep* he is. The whole time they were together/dating/going out or whatever the heck you wanna call it, he’s been playing the poor girl. I know this because he tried his moves on me, BUT, major fail-didn't work. I was a very very good girl focused on school
Anyways, they're married and have 2 little girlies. About a handful of people know he still does his usual; even some of her good friends know and I’m surprised they haven’t even told her. (or maybe they have but she’s being in denial?) He’s so good at being a sleazy bastard too.
BUT, the good community friend that I am, I want to tell her. I just don’t think she deserves to be in the dark about it. Especially when I saw the sleazy bastard in his realm doing his thang about a couple of weeks ago while me and my ‘undercover lover’ were out on a date.
WE were coming out of Cheesecake and we saw a familiar face walking Waikiki St towards us. Yup!!!! It was him. He was holding hands with a young blonde who looks like a red lobster in a skimpy top and an even skimpier skirt that could hardly cover her behind. We weren’t even surprised. AT ALL!!!! But when he caught sight of us, he full on pushed the girl into the APPLE store before he sat down on the cement posted next to the sidewalk.
‘Undercover Lover’ stopped to talk to the asswipe and I was too busy peeking around in the APPLE store if I could see the chick that was just shoved in there. Yup, there she was looking around and sneaking a peek at us. Does she know he’s a married man? And what the heck is this guy thinking? Is he really comfortable that people won’t say anything to his wife? That I WON’T say anything to his wife. Gosh the schmuck just doesn’t care I think. Maybe I should tell his wife when I see her next on the frozen foods isle at Foodland??
What say you expert women of the blogsphere? Should I? Should I?
Comments
Hhhmmm..im leaning towards telling her. And I know the bastard hubby will hate me for it and would probably give me a toungue lashing next time i see him (which will be a good op for me to bunch his lights out ...or NOT) but hey..don't go screwing around if you know you can't handle the jandal a ea??? hehehe
Ok, serious Dr Phil advice time. Ask yourself this question: Are you telling her out of love? Not gooey feelings or being her BFF kind of love, but being genuinely concerned for her and her marriage. If so, then tell her, gently. Like Coco Girl said, it's possible you'll get hated on. If you're doing it just to get the Basket in trouble, then put it this way, I wouldn't do it for that reason.
Always happy to add to your confusion! :)
(And if any of you guys see that happen to me, tell me STRAIGHT AWAY OR ELSE. That's all)
Yeah, and definitely not the frozen food section....
The denial of course will be expected coz she thinks she is inlove with the devil..... but for the long run, and if anything happens - at least YOU KB can sit back and say - I did tell You so!!!!
I wanted to tell her because I feel so sorry for her everytime I see her coz it always reminds me of what the basket is doing. And also, because I don't think she deserves it or deserve a basket like that coniving *bleep*. NO, she deserves better. She's such a nice woman. and the basket is so good at playing happy family with her and the little girlies when they're together.
But since me and her AREN'T REALLY friends??? hhhmmm...I mean if it were me, I don't care if you're my friend or NOT..you need to tell me if this happens to me. So maybe I WILL tell her. Ok, I'll sleep on it and then MAYBE, just MAYBE i'll tell her (if by next week and NO ONE ELSE DOES) gosh i sound like such a faikakala right now...wheeewwww
Been thinking abt this one. Heres my two sene. Most women who are in that situation, suspect that something is going on with their spouse. But they gently ignore it, esp if they dont get the in your face evidence that its happening. These same women however, are usually going to be grateful IN THE LONG RUN for that person who is strong enough/brave enough to tell them what they know. And really peeved off with all the people who knew and did nothing, said nothing. (I hate those people.)
If I was you, I suggest that you find a good time to casually tell her what you KNOW. Do you know he has raving sex with other people? No. Have you literally seen him get it on with another girl? No. ( at least i hope not) But you can ask her/tell her that you saw him holding hands etc with another chick and didnt feel right NOT telling her. Can even try mentioning it 'innocently'.
'innocently'-i shall try
thanks for the words of wisdome Betty..you've given me an idea..maybe I should suggest to one of her friends, who is MY friend to tell her and see how that works out..